Pitching, Life, and the Power of Becoming

I hope everyone had a safe, peaceful, and very Merry Christmas.

This time of year, always brings reflection — on growth, on gratitude, and on what’s next. And as I sit here at a cabin in Angel Fire, NM I find myself thinking about my pitchers and each of their journeys, I’m reminded of something I say often:

Pitching is never just physical.

Pitching is mental. Pitching is emotional. And honestly… pitching is a lot like life.

Softball itself is a game of failure. You will fail far more than you succeed — and life works the same way. There aren’t always rainbows and butterflies. In fact, the athletes who truly want to reach their full potential will experience more adversity than success.

And that’s not a bad thing — that’s how growth happens.

Every time you level up, a new version of you is required to rise to the occasion.

Think about it: A 16-year-old pitcher cannot pitch the same way she did at 12U.

Not physically. Not mentally. Not emotionally.

Why?

Because she became someone new at every stage.

She learned. She adapted. She grew.

Life works the same way.

There will be seasons where things feel smooth and easy. And there will be seasons where everything feels heavy, uncomfortable, and uncertain.

Both matter. Both shape you.

As we were driving to the ski resort this morning, I was reminded of what I was capable of doing...I was so nervous to go snowboarding. I almost didn't do it but then I remembered just how brave the Little Kally is. Something I needed to be reminded of was my ability to get gritty, choose grace and allow growth to happen. Something that I speak into my pitchers often if not daily.

What I’d Tell My Younger Self

If I could sit down with my younger self — the pitcher who wanted it so badly- who craved the competition — here’s what I would say:

Stop being afraid of failure. Stop tying your worth to outcomes. Trust the process even when it feels slow. And understand that confidence isn’t something you’re born with — it’s something you build through preparation.

I would tell her that the hard days are not setbacks — they are setting her up. That frustration usually means you’re on the edge of growth. And that learning how to respond when things don’t go your way will matter far more than any stat line.

Most importantly, I’d tell her this:

You don’t become elite by avoiding adversity — you become elite by learning how to move through it.

For the Pitchers Who Want to Play at the Next Level

If your goal is to pitch in college, understand this:

It’s not just about throwing harder. It’s not just about learning more pitches. It’s about becoming resilient. It’s about owning your preparation. It’s about learning how to fail, adjust, and come back stronger. It's about understanding that your success is a process and these things take time.

College softball doesn’t just demand skill — it demands maturity, discipline, and mental toughness.

And those things aren’t built overnight. They’re built one pitch at a time.

Ready to Take the Next Step?

If your daughter is a pitcher who wants more than just lessons —if she wants structure, accountability, confidence, and a plan —this is exactly what the KVS Mentorship Program was built for.

Training with me isn’t about quick fixes or chasing velocity. It’s about building a strong foundation, developing healthy mechanics, and growing mentally, emotionally, and physically so she can rise to each level with confidence.

Enrollment windows are open — and they won’t stay open long.

👉 Apply to train with Coach Kally V

👉 Complete the application👉 Book your free Game Plan Call

On that call, we’ll talk through goals, current challenges, and whether the KVS Mentorship is the right fit — because this program is intentional, and not every pitcher is accepted.

Let’s build the pitcher she’s becoming

—one pitch at a time.

— Coach Kally V